Thinking about my life 10 years from now is a scary though, especially considering the fact that I do not try to set expectations. In ten years, I will be 37, and ten year ago I was 17. When I was 17, I had so many expectations for 27, and I’ve reached… almost none.
I’m happy in my personal life, and in my opinion that’s the most important part. Through the ages of 17 and 27 I’ve learned that it’s okay to change your mind, and it’s okay to change things if you’re not happy. I’m glad that I finally feel okay with being myself. I’m okay with saying, “this isn’t what I expected it to be. I don’t want it”.
At my favorite spot in Sydney, The Chinese Garden of Friendship
Within the next ten years I hope to not live up to anyone else’s expectations. My family seems to think that just because I’m not married, don’t have any kids, and am not done with school yet, that I’m a disappointment. Coming from a Serbian family, they expect you to be married (to another Serbian), have kids in your mid 20’s and to have a good job.
This blog post is quickly turning bitter, so to switch to a positive side, it might be a fun exercise to look forward and imagine where I’d like to be. Perhaps this will help steer me in the right direction. Perhaps you’d like to do your own, just for fun!
In ten years, I hope to be living in either another warmer state, Sydney (where I grew up), or more recently I’ve been thinking about Croatia (where I was born). If I ever see snow again, it’ll be too soon. Being born in the Mediterranean climate and growing up Down Under, New Jersey is just not my first choice (although I do love it!).
New Jersey does have its perks!
My boyfriend has expressed an interest in moving as well. He’s only lived in New Jersey, but he says he doesn’t want to stay. As long as I am with him, and we are happy and healthy, it really doesn’t matter where we are. And of course, if he said he didn’t want to move, I wouldn’t. But, thankfully, he does. At 27 I have already lived in four different countries, and I hope for the number to continue to increase!
I hope to be working in either the art or design fields. At the moment I’d say working in a small art gallery, which is showcasing new talented artists would be perfect. There could be a new art trend emerging at this time and I hope to be helping artists express themselves to others. I hope to be planning art events and seeing them through to completion.
Another option I see is starting a print shop or graphic design office with my friend, Pru who I met through design classes. He and I are always talking about owning our own business in the future. The most I’ve ever loved design is while I was with my friends in community college. We would spend the whole day designing and creating off each other. If I did that every day I’d be happy.
Pru and I sharing our signature handshake at Middlesex Community College.
But, to be realistic, my only real hopes for the future are to be happy and healthy and to be making enough money, in an artistic field, to not have to worry about finances as much as I worry about them now.
With the one that makes me happiest!